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There is no question about our safety.
knzn, I thought that was keynesian! When I said the letters out loud I thought hey that sounds a little like Keynesian-a type of economic thought! Are you kidding!! I am such a lier! I had no idea and I didn’t know what it meant until you told me. It sounds interesting. Like I said, I respect numbers and math now. I think it is from using excel and trying to memorize formulas. I had to understand them before I could remember them. I was successful with a few, most notably, the V-lookup which is probably not used now. I even had the V-Lookup at home trying to set up pricing and URLs for my designs.
I think the “Sex Worker” debate is dwindling but I’d like to keep it up for a little bit longer. One more post after this one with a post in between should do it. I promised a boob shot and a ass shot to swanky-c so I will be posting one tonight. I am also taking some pics tomorrow with my favorite editor of all films and videos! They will go up tomorrow night. Don’t fret my sweets, I still love to get naked!
Sex workers in the middle east have it bad I agree but Sex Workers are embraced in much of Europe. They are spit on as the lowest low here. I remember once reading about how much fans actually hated their objects of desire. It was when that young porn starlet Zoey Zane (Emily Sander)died last year. The boards were saturated with posts about her mostly insults and verbal abuse. There was speculation on how she died and why she died. Every one said she died because she was a porn star and maybe an escort. But it was really just being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I don’t think it had anything to do with her career. Someone killed her and they did it because they were fucked up. In the end that’s all it was. Her parents may have been upset about her choice to become a sex worker, but in the end they’d rather she did that then be dead.
The same thing happened with the girl I posted about yesterday. I wish people would stop conjuring up these stories about people they don’t know just so they can feel better about themselves! That’s what it is in the end. I know because I used to do it. It was never about understanding it was always about me being glad I wasn’t them.
As for the murdered porn star, the fact that some of her fans became haters is something I have to remember every day. No matter how much they loved that girl when she was alive and naked getting fucked on video from johnny big dick, as soon as she was dead they turned on her. I never question why anymore, I just remember it. Sex workers are never safe.
Safety is a big reason why we have come together and called ourselves by the name “Sex Workers”. It gives us a safe haven and people to talk to. It’s a community where we all love each other, look out for one another and don’t judge our fellow sex workers even if we disagree with them. We are united under this title. And I for one feel a little bit better knowing that.
I’ve heard that the U.S. is one of the more religious countries in the world. There are likely plenty of bozos out there who feel that sex workers are somehow violating God’s “plan”.
Though, as someone who tends to be disrespectful of authority, I’d say that an anti-sex god is one we should be rebelling against or ignoring.
And you can quote me on that! ( :
I’ll continue the debate a bit in the old posts.
March 31st, 2008 at 5:56 pmJust to add my 2 cents:
One of the difficulties in using the “sex worker” title is its vagueness that plays into the view of the general public that “sex work = prostitution”.
Used in the context of the previous posts “sex worker” would include prostitutes, escorts, and all stripes of porn performers (softcore/hardcore, webcam, contract stars, etc.). Now, I am not an expert about prostitution, escort services or adult/porn performers (referred to as “P.E.P.” from now on) and, as will be evident shortly, I certainly do not think they are “all the same”. For the general public, however, the only major common denominator linking these groups is offering sexual services for a price (forgive the antiseptic & academic sounding “sexual services”).
I’d like to think that I understand not only the desire, but the need of P.E.P. to band together and lobby for their interests. I fully support them. Yet I can also see the term “sex worker” also working against Alix and other adult/porn performers since it carries the connotation of being a prostitute and, therefore, misrepresents their position. I’d be willing to go into more depth and discuss this – I just don’t want to bore anyone!
Regarding Venus’ comments: You are right on the money. There is, I think, little doubt that the U.S. is one of the most “religious” countries in the industrialized West – at least by way of paying lip service to what might be considered “fundamental” Christian principles. In SO many ways the view of sex in the U.S. is still that of the Puritan colonists of the North East (if only it was that of the hard drinking, lascivious colonists of the South East!). The denigration of the human body – and almost all things sexual – makes anything related to the body and sex taboo. Which, of course, also makes it very attractive (Georges Bataille’s “Eroticism” has some really good stuff about taboo and transgression).I’m also pretty disrespectful/distrusting of authority myself
Regarding Zoey Zane: This was the first time I heard about this (like I said, I’m no expert). Hearing about how her fans demonized her after death just absolutely disgusts me. Unfortunately, I think some “fans” fit the stereotype of the “objectifying porn consumer” and this means that they cannot or simply choose not to understand that each of these stars/performers is a person and not a fleshy automaton whose sole purpose is to fuck and allow others to experience vicarious pleasure.
April 1st, 2008 at 8:58 amAngrycoffeeman, thanks for the feedback. Your opinion is worth a lot more than two pennies. It’s good to know I have fans that think the way you do and are disgusted with the links I posted that led to forums abusing her after she died. I hope more readers will link on them. All you have to do is see the thread title and you will understand my abhorrence.
Venus, as always genius writing. Thanks for finding me.
April 1st, 2008 at 9:22 amI think the story about Zoe Zane shows something that is an interesting problem with the way people think about sex. At least this is my theory. People want sex to be “naughty” or “dirty” because that makes it more fun. (Who wants to have nice, clean sex, after all?) For example, in your train masturbation videos (which I loved BTW), you add an element of naughtiness by doing it in a place where you’re not supposed to. It works out well if people can keep a kind of doublethink where an emotional part of you thinks something is naughty and dirty but there’s also a rational part that thinks it’s OK. But some people take the naughty and dirty aspect too seriously and project it onto the objects of their sexual attention. And then in a way the love and hate (e.g. for Zoe) are part of the same thing. Because she represents naughtiness, dirtiness, that’s why they love her, and that’s also why they hate her.
Anyhow, the idea of a community of people coming together under the general heading of “Sex Workers” is not something I have a problem with. Where I have a problem is in using the terminology to gloss over (or pretend to gloss over) the diversity of occupations within that community. It would be as if the Teamster’s Union wanted everybody in the union to refer to their occupation as “teamster” or something like that, when they really represent a diversity of occupations.
I think it would be great if people could use the phrase “sex worker” in its general sense without being afraid also to use words like “prostitute.” As it is now, nobody will object if you use a phrase like “adult entertainer” to refer to an adult entertainer, but if you say “prostitute” to refer to a prostitute, people often think there’s an inherent hostility to it, and they want you to say “sex worker” instead. Under these circumstances it’s kind of inevitable that people come to associate the phrase “sex worker” with prostitutes (which, as Angrycoffeeman points out, can cause it to end up misrepresenting people like you).
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